tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post1639386357801052877..comments2024-02-16T02:37:49.279-08:00Comments on Knowledge & Expression: The intimacy in few relations are shortlived??? Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comBlogger91125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-10505459228240343372008-11-10T23:23:00.000-08:002008-11-10T23:23:00.000-08:00Good for people to know.Good for people to know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-33324333705796333452007-07-05T05:01:00.000-07:002007-07-05T05:01:00.000-07:00@ GaneshHahaha..But how? :)@ Ganesh<BR/><BR/>Hahaha..But how? :)Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-1226843385720245282007-07-05T04:56:00.000-07:002007-07-05T04:56:00.000-07:00@ Known Stranger//We leave them with no reassuranc...@ Known Stranger<BR/><BR/>//We leave them with no reassurance due to our immaturity of taking them for granted or for our selfish concerns.//<BR/><BR/>So true! :) <BR/><BR/>And thanku for taking so much effort! :)Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-48833425379031480272007-07-05T04:54:00.000-07:002007-07-05T04:54:00.000-07:00@ Vik//Tat was a serious write up but so true to b...@ Vik<BR/><BR/>//Tat was a serious write up but so true to believe that coz one too many times that happens around us.//<BR/><BR/>:) True!Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-12473884703246879892007-06-27T13:49:00.000-07:002007-06-27T13:49:00.000-07:00hey.. found ur blog!cool :-)hey.. found ur blog!<BR/>cool :-)Ganeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11574290993085235683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-49588722052965672512007-05-10T18:41:00.000-07:002007-05-10T18:41:00.000-07:00The major reason for our inability to hold on any ...The major reason for our inability to hold on any relationship after a few ruffling is we are not receptive to others. When one is insecure in the relation, we fail to reassure them that we are still there for them. We leave them with no reassurance due to our immaturity of taking them for granted or for our selfish concerns. We want others to be receptive and wish to hear regularly from them that we are valued , cherished and given importance in their life but we fail to reciprocate. We want others to reach us at the time of our difficulty with out being asked or judged but we fail to reach to them when it is needed as well as end up judging them. Because, most of the time we walk in one way traffic lane. We want them to surrender to us but we don’t. We stop to share our emotions but expect from them .The intimate enchanting relationship gets under siege then. Everything perishes in one sided process. During the siege, our heart will be filled with the thoughts of loved one more than what our mind was filled with during the second phase of the enthralling relationship. More we dwell in their thoughts more we want to reconnect with them yet mind urges us to avoid fearing the humiliation or hurt would repeat . We would have lost the wonderful relationship because we forgot the basic rule that sharing and expressing our emotions nurture the relationship. We develop a ego and avoid each other in a false hope that it would make us stronger but deep inside we will yearn to reconnect with them but wont know how to because we are egoistic and not ready to give away. The magic spell will create opportunity to get back the intimate friendship but we would be sarcastic to worsen it further. Most of us believe once the intimate emotional feeling is developed, there is no need to spend time with each other to thrive it forever. Every plant needs regular watering; nourishment and attention to have it blossom with flowers and fruits even if it has grown as a tree. The same is true with all relationships whether it is friendship, love or any other. Regularly reassuring the care towards each other is vital in any relationship other wise it will turn to be a malnourished child and will decompose one day. <BR/><BR/> <BR/><BR/>When the hurt is inflicted time doesn’t heal the wound. Silence or distancing doesn’t solve the purpose. It only aggravates the hurt and sows the seed for deceitful interactions creating an aversion over them on long run. If we win over our worthless ego and ready to forgive our selves & other, find time for each other as we did in the initial stages, talk openly venting out the entire suppressed wrath with no self justification and courage to accept the mistakes we can retrieve the earlier wonderful zealous enchanting relationship if at all we want to. If we do so, the relationship will be stronger than ever before even if we had crossed the line subtly. It is no concern as we will be looking to win back the earlier fervent friendship that existed with intimate altruistic emotional care and passionate support towards each other keeping us in high sprit & cheer bringing a positive vibes and strength in our life.<BR/><BR/> <BR/><BR/>Or the wonderful zealous, enchanting, emotional friendship will be just a past memory turning the once intimate friends to known strangers.<BR/><BR/>this is a small part of the stuff you wanted me to write and post. the whole article will be posted in my blog spot. if you wan by email let me knowKnown Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03884368594292384630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-76289605002956859332007-05-07T01:38:00.000-07:002007-05-07T01:38:00.000-07:00Oh nice new template. I failed to notice that you ...Oh nice new template. I failed to notice that you actually wrote again ! Tat was a serious write up but so true to believe that coz one too many times that happens around us.<BR/><BR/>keep writing and take it easyVik Rajagopalanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00983811333354948811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-20960853898204331542007-05-04T11:11:00.000-07:002007-05-04T11:11:00.000-07:00@ Gils Apdiya? Link podunga inga..elarum paapomey!...@ Gils<BR/> Apdiya? Link podunga inga..elarum paapomey! :)Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-71210255071373909242007-05-04T05:28:00.000-07:002007-05-04T05:28:00.000-07:00idey mari naan vera edathula oru post patheney..hm...idey mari naan vera edathula oru post patheney..hmmm...ena nadaktuhgilshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03259194565523548553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-32425255063419946772007-04-26T08:19:00.000-07:002007-04-26T08:19:00.000-07:00@ Vinod Hahaha... Thanku for the words :P@ Vinod<BR/> Hahaha... Thanku for the words :PPonnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-16316715617077715142007-04-26T02:02:00.000-07:002007-04-26T02:02:00.000-07:00Just wait till you are out of college and start li...Just wait till you are out of college and start living your own life. You would feel this much more then. I did atleast !!Vinod Ramamoorthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14328984156036014987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-86811082506902224562007-04-17T09:29:00.001-07:002007-04-17T09:29:00.001-07:00@ Raj Aaaha ;) Naa inga apdi vaithiyam ethum sola...@ Raj <BR/><BR/> Aaaha ;) Naa inga apdi vaithiyam ethum solalaye.. Noi than soliruken.. Marunthu enakey theriyala :DPonnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-33827838889517168132007-04-17T09:29:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:29:00.000-07:00@ Raghs Yeap will try 2 b of some help@ Raghs<BR/> Yeap will try 2 b of some helpPonnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-11348986712455204882007-04-17T09:14:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:14:00.000-07:00Sorry to say this. Vasool raja mbbs, katipudi vaid...Sorry to say this. Vasool raja mbbs, katipudi vaidhyam madhiri irunthathu..As you said i too Really miss my friend after my school.... Going to miss friends after college.. MM life goes on and on.....Raja Krishnanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931960425974996181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-73987250385406511742007-04-17T03:04:00.000-07:002007-04-17T03:04:00.000-07:00pls if u have time have a look at this..http://iya...pls if u have time have a look at this..<BR/><BR/>http://iyandra-alavu-udhavalaamae.blogspot.com/2007/04/help-4-yr-old-boy-santhosh.html<BR/><BR/>and try to forward this to ur friends..<BR/>to save a 4 yr old boy Santhosh.<BR/><BR/>Thanks,<BR/>Raghavan.Raghavan alias Saravanan Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17770791475348776850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-39084218424550959182007-04-16T10:32:00.000-07:002007-04-16T10:32:00.000-07:00@ Bunky Jumping pundit Wow.. Good 2 c u here after...@ Bunky Jumping pundit<BR/><BR/> Wow.. Good 2 c u here after a long time! <BR/><BR/>I have refered 2 that in a subtle note :D as below. <BR/><BR/>//The situation is worse if there are best friends among which the genders are opposite. And one gets committed to work or to another person in life and again the intimacy is lost.//<BR/><BR/>And yeah u r rite.. After being committed its nt tht easy 2 find the good old friend :(Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-35051744590687636842007-04-16T10:30:00.000-07:002007-04-16T10:30:00.000-07:00@ The Devil :) Thanku. Am glad tht u liked the tem...@ The Devil<BR/> :) Thanku. Am glad tht u liked the template. <BR/><BR/>//.first indha shedding of inhibitions maranum//<BR/><BR/>Well said! <BR/><BR/>And yeah let the other person reach us'nu thonitaley kastam than! :) <BR/><BR/>Thanku for the wishes :D <BR/>Naanum late'a wishren! Hehehe.. Puthandu Vazhthugal! <BR/><BR/>Thanku for dropping by as well.Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-9099007181005958652007-04-16T10:27:00.000-07:002007-04-16T10:27:00.000-07:00@ Padmapriya Nanri! :) Puthandu vazhthugal..Late'a...@ Padmapriya<BR/> Nanri! :) Puthandu vazhthugal..Late'a solren! :DPonnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-53068626203626577362007-04-16T10:26:00.000-07:002007-04-16T10:26:00.000-07:00@ Barbi Welcome! :) And side bar wt wud u like 2 c...@ Barbi<BR/> Welcome! :) <BR/><BR/>And side bar wt wud u like 2 c? :-/Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-55629039010366988192007-04-16T10:25:00.000-07:002007-04-16T10:25:00.000-07:00@ Rose Nice fwd! :) Welcome here!@ Rose<BR/> Nice fwd! :) Welcome here!Ponnarasi Kothandaramanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827866693150213081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-22401625164930773742007-04-16T08:11:00.000-07:002007-04-16T08:11:00.000-07:00hey,i loved this post... i wanna add a new spice a...hey,<BR/><BR/>i loved this post... i wanna add a new spice and bring a different flavor... have you ever thought abt male/female friendship... it lasts only until u/she gets married.. after which priorities change...Bunky Jumping Pundithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15118065959819043460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-26106171442504779062007-04-15T22:46:00.002-07:002007-04-15T22:46:00.002-07:00n belated puthandu nalvaazhthukkal wishes ponna :)...n belated puthandu nalvaazhthukkal wishes ponna :)The Devilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03235642518750871825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-65242512490376579022007-04-15T22:46:00.001-07:002007-04-15T22:46:00.001-07:00n finally a very thoughtful post indeed :)n finally a very thoughtful post indeed :)The Devilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03235642518750871825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-61461231196149778572007-04-15T22:46:00.000-07:002007-04-15T22:46:00.000-07:00innoru vishayam expectations...even some gr8 frien...innoru vishayam expectations...even some gr8 friends when they r poles apart think tht 'let the other person contact me first'..adhuvum poganum n they shud b doin justice to their gr8 friendsThe Devilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03235642518750871825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18031322.post-29063028061951729782007-04-15T22:44:00.000-07:002007-04-15T22:44:00.000-07:00ppl shud never forget to smile (not laugh)...even ...ppl shud never forget to smile (not laugh)...even a small smile wud let ppl knw tht hes feelin gud abt the other person, mathapadi if u r really loving their presence no problem in letting them know :)The Devilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03235642518750871825noreply@blogger.com