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Sunday, February 01, 2009

Negative Emotion come in series?


I was happy today for some strange reason which made me wonder about some thing else. Last time when I was down I remember that my brain accumulated all the reason for me to be more bugged and sad. It was more like my brain said, "Hey you are feeling bad for just one thing that happened. Here! I would gather all the things that has happened in the recent past to feel even more bad or worse!"
Why am i not feeling the same way when I am happy? Why cannot I recollect all the good things that has happened and be even more happier? I feel that negative emotions come in series where as positive emotions come all alone. Is this only to me or do you feel the same too? I am still wondering..........

While I am typing this post my mobile was buzzing and when I shared this with my friend, I was told "Why the hell do you have to waste time when you are happy by thinking some thing weird like this?" May be he is right ;) Thats all for now. Tata..

P.S: I am bored of giving reason for not updating the blog! This time let me leave it to the imagination of readers as why I didnt update for a long time :D
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38 comments:

Compassion Unlimitted said...

Welcome Back
I think Unhappiness & fear go along ,hand in hand. I think fear is a primal feel & hence perhaps gets itself projected in an accumulated form...pochu,romba sodappitten ponga..enakke enna solla varennu puriyale.

your friend is right, try ignoring this unhappiness & remember the old song Happy Indru mudhal Happy..
Idhu adhulluku mela kadi

TaTa
TC
CU

நாகை சிவா said...

Episode no ellam pottu vachu irrukingala illaiya... ???

;))))

Neo said...

I used to feel that when something goes wrong, everything goes wrong. It is because our mind tends to think of all the problems when we are upset for something. Its not easy to overcome it which slightly means we are negative and it tends to go negative further. On the other hand when we are happy our mind is filled and there are not much gaps to fill in to think about all the happy things.

I'm not quite sure about the later, as i feel that happiness doubles and sorrows get halfed when you share with someone.

Its a good topic to think about. Definitely need to think not just when we are sad, but even when are happy.

Kanupriya said...

Nice blog and u r not the only one to feel the same! I think general human tendency is that negative things leave somehow more lasting impression than positive things in life. Though we should try to reverse this impression track :)

சரவண வடிவேல் said...

wht is the moral of this blog??? :)

Aparna said...

//I feel that negative emotions come in series where as positive emotions come all alone. Is this only to me or do you feel the same too?//

Sometimes I too feel the same!

Anonymous said...

Me tooo :-)

-Padmapriya

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ CU
//Unhappiness & fear go along ,hand in hand.//

Very true :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Siva
Nakkaluku oru alavu iruku :(
Ithellam too much!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Neo

//Definitely need to think not just when we are sad, but even when are happy//

Agreed! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Kanupriya
Welcome! :) Good 2 c u here..

//Though we should try to reverse this impression track :)//

I am wondering and working on the same too!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Saravana
Hahaha..I dont know.. If u find any let me know ;)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Aparna
SAME PINCH :D

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Padmapriya
Same pinch :P

rajkingme said...

Ennamo padichavanga solringa. sari....

Its human nature ... We will stick to present happiness alone and always recollect past sadness. We would be considered as more than normal if we dont collect all the garbage of the sadness :)

gundumama said...

Your friends are always right :D

Ravi said...

this has been well said .. in "3 mistakes of my life" by chetan bhagat .. "the mind maintains box for sadness and happiness " .. whenever .. a sad thing happens .. the box is opened and u cud see the past things that hpnd over ...
... adhu seri .. my mobile hasnt buzzed .. i hve nothin much to say on this :-) !!

Sudhakar said...

That itself shows how positive things are more stronger than negatives.Just look it requires a series of negative thoughts to make you sad. But,see ,one positive thought is enough to make you happy :)

Sanity in a world of Insanity is insane~The Insane said...

finally - after a loooonnngggg tym ;)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@Raj

//We would be considered as more than normal if we dont collect all the garbage of the sadness :)//

So damn true! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Gundumama
U 2 brutus? :P

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Ravi
Look who is here :O
How r u? Long time???

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Sudhakar
:) Yeah.,.but its difficult to recollect that one single good positive thought :P

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Sanity in a world of insanity
:) Yeah! Hows u?

DT said...

ippadi once in blue moom post potta eppadi.... !! oh.. just realized.. nanae.. blog-ah update panni oru sila varam agudhu.. anyhow.. next meet panren...

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ DT
Once in a blue moon atleast panna mudithey nu am happy :) @ times....Life drives u far away frm wt u were or wt u wanna b :(
Helpless!

SanJai Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ காந்தி said...

Freeya vidu machi.. :))

//This time let me leave it to the imagination of readers as why I didnt update for a long time :D//

Ennamo nadakuthu
marmama irukuthu..
onnume puriyaley..
ulagathiley..

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmaaatikitaya? :))

SanJai Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ காந்தி said...

//gundumama said...
Your friends are always right :D
//

yeah yeah.. like u and me :))

rsubras said...

hey you are updating ur blog more frequently than i do :D

Good to see ur comment after a longggggggggg time

Jeevan said...

Yes it is so true many times. Until i take anything series noting goes worse with me.

Balaji said...

Sry fr d dlyd rply. thght lrdy pstd cmmnt.

Thanks fr the comment! Nice post!

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Sathish said...

Happy, Sad... ellame oru illusion'nga.... ellam namma mandai kulla mattum thaan... (idha Arya sollama vittuttar)

DT said...

blog update panra idea iruka illaiya?

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Known Stranger said...

gathering all best good happy moments - a concept rolling used in the book Harry potter. it was also a concept used in Mahabharat. You are not having a wired thought or innovative thought. Gathering all good moments brought great energy to few mythological character of Hindu mythology ( whether it is true or real thatz another debate). By the way ( i cant resist being rude heiehei athu eppadi ponarasikida rude a behave panati eppadi thukam varum) why do you want ot give reason for not updating the blog. you dont want to update so dont update and why should readers imaging why you didnt update. you didnt update because you didnt want to update avalo than. enamoo periya internatinal author write ranguku scene peter vitruka in blog.

appa iniki nalla thukam varum ;)

Princess said...

hi,

it happens to me as well the same way... may be unfortunate events get linked somewhere at the brain's back side, and happy thoughts are unique and independent ;)

anyways if u think u r happy u r even if there is no specific reason to be happy.

tc,
-Aiz.

J B Jux said...

Ah yeah! Be happy and that is all that matters!