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Tuesday, July 03, 2007

Kids or Young adults????



Infinite Talent shows,opportunities as child artists,unlimited exposures in TV and to the public, enormous fame and money. Kids these days have so many talents and proper opportunity along with right place to stage those talents as well. They get to move along with every one easily and come out of being shy bird easily along which the child being innocent also gets reduced. The more a kid is exposed to the outside world the more the kid is entitled to lose its innocence.Are kids matured enough to handle these?


Apart from these talent shows, kids are also going crazy about acting or modeling at a very young age. I was greatly astounded when a child artist in one of the interviews told "Enku neriya uncles kooda act panni, world famous aagnum'nu aasai". Mazhalai kooda maarala! :( I recently heard from a authentic source that a kid is being paid Rs 15K to 20K for a still in the modeling field. And kids who act as child artists in movies are even paid in lakhs. Finally they find no time for self improvement in the long run. They dont have time to their daily home works, most of them do not perform well in their academics. This not only disturbs the kids education but also affects the kids psychologically. According to a research Kids who are made to act in death scenes, who are made to cry before a dead body, casting like the kids close relatives are dead and the kids mourning for that, kids acting like mentally retarded undergo psychological problems. In order to avoid these problems other countries have a rule as to have a child psychiatrist in the shooting spot and kids are allowed to act only in the vacation. Here in India, there is a widespread news that parents are shifting from their own places to places like Mumbai, Kodambakkam where the opportunities for acting is more.



Kids tend to learn bad things from these exposures easily. Starting from using words that are not supposed to be heard from a kids mouth,using vengeance statements as told by the villains & villis in soaps & movies. Kids are no longer behaving like kids! Practically its hard to keep away from these exposures unless and until everyone in the society has concern about the future generation. Preaching & practice Starts from home. Parents avoiding fighting in front of the kids and avoiding playing blame games, avoiding watching violence movies/soaps would contribute to saving the vulnerable kids from bad things. No where i convey the meaning to grow kids naive. Exposure to the right thing at the right age is more important in young ones life!

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By the way my 51st post dedicated to Kids! :D Forgot to mention that the earlier post was my 5oth!

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80 comments:

Shruti said...

wel, kids are no longer is being innocent..They are so influence by TV that they even force their parents to go with the recents trends..

Aparna said...

>Kids are no longer behaving like kids!
I guess that sums up everything!
Btw, Congrats on the 51st post :)

Vik said...

Well then that is quite an interesting thing you brought up. Firstly, talk about casting in roles that mean psychological disorders, it ain't gonna matter much to the parents. It is the instant fame and money that matters to people these days and so kids run the rat race early in their life !
And talk about learning things, I cannot agree more on what you said. What they see in visual is assimilated much faster than what they hear. So anything that pertains to good or bad is going to be defined by the circle and the area where they grow up.

Competitive world this is'nt it? People go to any measure to make their kids successful - not just in academics but also anything and everything that deserves a shot at :-)

Have a good evening.

kanniya said...

well i personaly belive that any kid must b given the oppertunity do what they like ... i donno abt the rest my mum n dad let me off the hook and fend for my self at an young age(12) ... was given a bank account and had the keys to the house n stuff ... the point being that if the kid learns and does it on its own intrest i don belive u must stop it with the pretex of disorder or the fame is bad kinda attitude by the grownups .. yep ter have been cases reportd ... but those are mainly hyped up by the media .... may b doin somethin abt the media being good enuf to skip the so called juicy bits abt a kid in stardom will help the kid more than their weekly sales figures ... the more mature and more sophesticated you get ... the better for ur nxt gen ...

i had a visit to my granny and we wer talking stuff on whats she is doin ... she has a farm setup old style house ... she was tellin m abt the new water system she had planned up lookin at it i was able to give some suggestions that saved her some costs .... and she was like kids these days are outa the league .... i'd say young adult is good only thing is th parns need to b smart enuf to b the right guide and not let the kid watch some supid tamil movie n sing songs ....



pssttt .... headin home to typed it in a hhurry .... :XD

மு.கார்த்திகேயன் said...

POnna, ithu attendance mattum thaan.. appuramaa vanthu padikkiren :))

:: The Protector :: said...

its a debateable topic....

i agree with your point kids are no more innocent..coz they hc access to tv, web...

we shall teach the kids to grow up by themselves with proper guidance, it will increase the level of self confidence...

but it also has the -ve side of explotation....

Ganesh Ranganathan said...

Its nice that they get a platform to exhibit their talent...but it should not have any adverse psychological effect on them..

Sometimes they go overboard...Saw the movie "Cheeni Kum", a 6-7 yr old girl's character is named Sexy in the movie....that was disgusting...

Adiya said...

oru kid0oda manasu innoru kidduku dhaan therium.. :) korrect inga. :)

Neo said...

Congrats PK on your 51st post. Wishes to continue ... Agree that media has got a strong influence on kids. But whether kids act or not, seeing movies, songs and ads - that itself influences a lot. I have not heard any celeberity feeling bad that he/she took the wrong career from child hood (Acting from young age). Infact many have succeeded. I also feel that its parents duty to find the talent in a child and show them the right direction. After all studying is not the only thing that grows your career or gives you lesson. Most of kids are grown in such a way that they just by-heart the notes and not understand them. I mean they dont really apply what they read.

I dont agree that parents make their kids act just for money (reply to one of the comment). May be few are like that, but in most cases its the talent of the kids that makes the parents feel that he/she will defintely shine in that area. Ofcourse we need to take care of telling them the right and wrong things. Media is not the only place where kids learn the wrong things even in school, colleges they do happen to see and learn. Finally this world is filled with good n bad. Its up to parents to higlight it to their kids. Its really a good post and good topic to debate about.

gundumama said...

Exploitation of innocence happens only when proper guidance is not there for the child.

//Kids tend to learn bad things from these exposures easily. Starting from using words that are not supposed to be heard from a kids mouth//

Even kids who have not acted in movies can also learn these words.

//Exposure to the right thing at the right age is more important in young ones life!//

This is always balanced with other question- Look at the world out there growing fast.

Its time for sex education at schools, how come you stop the exposure?

Any plans to start play school or creche? I thought you are joining a software company :P

//Sometimes they go overboard...Saw the movie "Cheeni Kum", a 6-7 yr old girl's character is named Sexy in the movie....that was disgusting// - Ganesh

People are more interested on the character name than its attributes :)

Priya Sivan said...

Congrats on this milestone :) I am watching the program regularly and amazed to see these kids having extraordinary talents. The selection of songs now are decent to hear also. But during primary rounds, it was odd to hear kids singing "loosu penne" etc. Singing at home is different. But when singing in public the kids should be guided properly. It depends on the parents to mould their talents ! Nice post ! :)

Padmapriya said...

Congrats on ur 51st post!!!
and this was a very good thought..

there is no "child labour" concept in this regard or what??

Harish said...

It depends on the upbringing of the kids as well.
Look at the ex of someone as kamalHassan and Sridevi who in turn made a mark for themselves.
In hollywood one ex is of Home alone star Macaulay Culkin who had to face custody battle, drugs and fame at a young age.
Its a hard task to manage fame and adulation at a young age...U can fall in bad company and lose sight...but then...thats what life is all about.

Nice topic this one :-)

Vicky Goes Crazy... said...

Hi yar,

munnadi elam manusan i mean tamizh guys ellam 5'8 height irukurathey romba athisiyam ippo ellam 6 than min height aaiduchu ... things are changing so are the human mentality n growth ... now days children gets lots of good food (junk always there so skip it [:D] )

its better to tell them tat this bad n ask them to stay away from them ... first parents have to change hte way they grow up their kids coz now days kids have net to explore at the place they dnt even has to move from their place ... our parents used to hide things abt sex from us but now days its not possible .... its better we tell them wat it is rather than allowing their curiosity to grow n let them learn n a wrong way rite ??

moreover parents have to be ffriends unless the children get the feeling tat they can share all stuff n ask themwat ever they think we wil have them in control til they are matured enough to know tats this s good n bad ... so lots of factors to be considered :) ...

Ranjhith said...

The % of kids into acting/modeling is very meagre & isn't bad. But accompanying a psychiatrist & a parent is very necessary.

There is a huge % of kids who watch movies/tv shows meant for adults. Yes, the influence will be greater. They pick up things fast from what ever sources, they come across.

i think, parents shud be educated about whats good & bad for child's entertainment. Kids of today come with perfumes/lipsticks all becos of their parents.

In the end of the day its boils down to one word: Evolution. :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Shruti
Hm.. :) Very true!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Aparna
Thanku! :D

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Vik
//so kids run the rat race early in their life ! //

Yeah and thereby they lose the innocence @ a very early stage!

//So anything that pertains to good or bad is going to be defined by the circle and the area where they grow up.//

Agreed!

//Have a good evening.//

Thanku! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Kanniya

//well i personaly belive that any kid must b given the oppertunity do what they like ... i donno abt the rest my mum n dad let me off the hook and fend for my self at an young age(12) ...//

Not all stories have good ending like yours :) If it so happens then well and good!

//'d say young adult is good only thing is th parns need to b smart enuf to b the right guide and not let the kid watch some supid tamil movie n sing songs ....//

Y pull Tamil movies alone??? :O Apart from pulling Tamil ;) everything is ok! :)

Thanku for dropping by!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Karthikeyan
:) Ok.. waiting!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Protector

//we shall teach the kids to grow up by themselves with proper guidance, it will increase the level of self confidence...

but it also has the -ve side of explotation....//

Yeah well said! The -ve side should nt b increased is what am concerned about! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Ganesh

//Sometimes they go overboard...Saw the movie "Cheeni Kum", a 6-7 yr old girl's character is named Sexy in the movie....that was disgusting..//

Apdiyaaaaaaaa :O This is a news for me! :D Am yet 2 watch tht movie! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Adiya

//oru kid0oda manasu innoru kidduku dhaan therium.. :) korrect inga. :)//

Aaaha! :) Appo naa pesrathu ungaluku puritha ...athu pothum! :D

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Neo

//I dont agree that parents make their kids act just for money (reply to one of the comment). May be few are like that, but in most cases its the talent of the kids that makes the parents feel that he/she will defintely shine in that area.//

Hm...There are few exceptions in everything :) True!

//Finally this world is filled with good n bad. Its up to parents to higlight it to their kids. Its really a good post and good topic to debate about.//

:) Thanku!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Gundumaama

//Even kids who have not acted in movies can also learn these words.//

Ayo enna logic da saami!

//This is always balanced with other question- Look at the world out there growing fast.

Its time for sex education at schools, how come you stop the exposure?//

Huh..So it doesnt mean that kids are matured enough to know anything and everything in the world.

//Any plans to start play school or creche? I thought you are joining a software company :P//

:O Insulting??? Part time vela try panitu iruken ;)

////Sometimes they go overboard...Saw the movie "Cheeni Kum", a 6-7 yr old girl's character is named Sexy in the movie....that was disgusting// - Ganesh

People are more interested on the character name than its attributes :)//

Everything in a movie plays a great part in the viewers life. And the Viewer being in any age all these are something that has to be kept in mind! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Priya

//But when singing in public the kids should be guided properly. It depends on the parents to mould their talents ! Nice post ! :)//

Yes agreed! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Padma

//there is no "child labour" concept in this regard or what??//

Yes..True :) There are quite a number of protestations by social organisations stating the above fact! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Harish

//In hollywood one ex is of Home alone star Macaulay Culkin who had to face custody battle, drugs and fame at a young age.//

Oh..Thts a news for me! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Vicky

//its better we tell them wat it is rather than allowing their curiosity to grow n let them learn n a wrong way rite ?? //

Yes.. May be this would be one of the best approach! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Ranjhith

//The % of kids into acting/modeling is very meagre & isn't bad.//

No longer :) Visit the website i have linked and you would know the present scenario.

sk said...

It is all about getting your priorities right! there is no way u can control what your kid gets exposed to, esp given the media and the increasingly easier access v have to all "bad" (as you put it) stuff. Before we teach or try to teach our kids about priorities, it is better to get a clear idea for ourselves.

My days(Gops) said...

madam attendance.. [:D]

Nirek said...

congrats on 50th post.
btw 50 post than aguthaa?? acharayam... u r so popular with so less posts....!
great and kudos!

Vidya said...

It is quite interesting that you brought this topic up. I have noticed that kids want to recieve only makeup kits as gifts. And this was 5 years ago. I was a little surprised when I heard them say that. So the "society" must have become more competitive to urge kids to become adults faster!

When you get a chance, look up Jonbenet Ramsey. Such a sweet life, snuffed out so early and there is a possibility that famedom also had something to do with it!

Ravi said...

WOW ... theme .. is pretty nice .. (yeah yeah .. its me ..after a long gaaaaaaaaaaaaaap .. wish i'm remembered !!!) .. will be back soon !!!1

Ravi said...

mm .... missin all ;-(

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ SK

//there is no way u can control what your kid gets exposed to, esp given the media and the increasingly easier access v have to all "bad" (as you put it) stuff.//

Am sure we can at least limit the circle that they are exposed to.

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Gops
Heheh..Late attendance than undu! ;) Kidding!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Nirek

//congrats on 50th post.
btw 50 post than aguthaa?? acharayam... u r so popular with so less posts....!
great and kudos!//

Yeap this is my 51st post which means earlier post was 50..Hehehe.. Thanku! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Vidya

//I have noticed that kids want to recieve only makeup kits as gifts.//

Apdiya?? :O Shocking!

//So the "society" must have become more competitive to urge kids to become adults faster!//

Well said! Totally Agreed!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Ravi

//(yeah yeah .. its me ..after a long gaaaaaaaaaaaaaap .. wish i'm remembered !!!) ..//

Yaaru neenga :P Engayo paatha maari irukey ;)

Hehehe..Kidding.. Hows u?

The Talkative Man said...

Madrasla kids ippo ellam indha maari dhaan dress pannundhungala? kazhudha ketta kuttichevuru!

PoKo, don't waste your tears over such kids. Yenga generationla paattu, dancing, acting-nu peela vitta podusus all took Catering technology, DTP, etc when they got to college. Unsociable formula-mugging Fruits like me were never asked to sing or dance by visiting guests.

By the way, "Knowledge and Expression" title paakum podhu ellaam sirippa varudhu :p Are you Ma.Nannan? :)

My days(Gops) said...

a very gud post pons...

ellathukumey therium....

kids acting => is all about FOR fame and money only.



enna seiradhu, avangalukku chance kidaikaama irundha matttumey muneruvaaanga :P

My days(Gops) said...

and wht do u say about the kids, shining in sports field?

My days(Gops) said...

//Kids tend to learn bad things from these exposures easily. Starting from using words that are not supposed to be heard from a kids mouth,using vengeance statements as told by the villains & villis in soaps & movies//

idhuku media mattum thaaan reason nu solla vareeeengala?

My days(Gops) said...

//Exposure to the right thing at the right age is more important in young ones life!//

super ah soneenga...

My days(Gops) said...

47 unga 50th post ah miss panniten... hneh eh

My days(Gops) said...

edhuku 50 podathaaan..

My days(Gops) said...

idhu unga 51st post

My days(Gops) said...

adhula oru 50 potaadhi..

My days(Gops) said...

51 st post la 51 pottutu,

me the ejcapu...

varataa

mani said...

Hmm quite interesting comments. I have been thinking about this for a while as I am really surprise to see kids perform very well in movies than adults. Also kids doing their fifth grade has got more exposure, knows more stuffs which I came to know only when I was doing my tenth.
This exposure, knowledge makes the kid either rotten or brilliant. This depends upon the parents. Parents have the complete responsibility to teach their children the right and the wrong.
They should allow thier children to get exposed to outside world but they also should tk care that it doesnt affect their studies or their behavior. Also its their responsibility to make their children act or do things that wont affect them psychologically. They shouldn't make their money by selling their child's innocence.
Children should be exposed to outside world only to the right things. Stealing child's innocence is one of the unpardonable crime.

The Insane said...

Well, i am relatively new to this space...

your posts were impressive.

Vinod R Iyer said...

I am always in awe of the kids who come in the advertisements. They somehow are better actors than many of the adults even. And also have wondered how they would be reacting to the publicity they would be getting at school and all. Gr8 Observations.

Karthik B.S. said...

PInjuliye pazhudhadhu nu solvaangale adhu ivanga dhaana? :)

The Insane said...

Rajni Fan.. Of course... and Tell me Who is not.. :)

and me being a Movie-Buff, Rajni Movie is a Treat to watch.

Yeah, My Posts are getting longer than usual,must give a check on that.

I haven't gone through much of your posts , but Your Post titled "The intimacy in few relations are shortlived??" was Impressive.

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Talkative man

//Madrasla kids ippo ellam indha maari dhaan dress pannundhungala? kazhudha ketta kuttichevuru!//

Hahaha mostly ipadi than! :)

//By the way, "Knowledge and Expression" title paakum podhu ellaam sirippa varudhu :p Are you Ma.Nannan? :)//

Intha joke enaku purilaye! :) Kindly explain :D

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Gops

//a very gud post pons...

ellathukumey therium....

kids acting => is all about FOR fame and money only.//

Hahaha! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

//wht do u say about the kids, shining in sports field?//

What do u say na enna kekreenga?? I dont get ur arguement! :(

//idhuku media mattum thaaan reason nu solla vareeeengala?//

Ithuvum one of the reason- Itha marukka mudiyathula?

//edhuku 50 podathaaan..//

Thanku Gops! :) Ungalukku poruma athigam.. Nanri :)

51 kum thanku :D

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Mani

//This exposure, knowledge makes the kid either rotten or brilliant. This depends upon the parents. Parents have the complete responsibility to teach their children the right and the wrong.//

Agreed! :)

//Stealing child's innocence is one of the unpardonable crime.//

I have never thought in this angle! :) Very well said!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Insane

//Well, i am relatively new to this space...

your posts were impressive.//

Welcome here! :) and thanku!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Vinod

//I am always in awe of the kids who come in the advertisements. They somehow are better actors than many of the adults even.//

:) Yeah true!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Karthik

//PInjuliye pazhudhadhu nu solvaangale adhu ivanga dhaana? :)//

Ayo un thiramai paathu asandu poiten naa po!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Insane

//Rajni Fan.. Of course... and Tell me Who is not.. :)//

I was once and am not anymore.. His earlier movies were good..No doubt but offlate i have a doubt if he agrees 2 movies without listening to the story!

//I haven't gone through much of your posts , but Your Post titled "The intimacy in few relations are shortlived??" was Impressive.//

Thanku!

Seths said...

I was about to write the 1st comment.

Days went on(just work kept me busy) and finally I'm looking at the # of comments for this post. It's crossed already 64!!!

Before the count reaches 100 let me make my entry for this post:-)

Modelling/Acting is again an interest or a passion for few people. There is nothing wrong about it. My concern is when they are young adults, they are more vulnerable. As u said, exposure to right things at right time makes more sense. Ppl might take advantage of their innocence. Its highly likely that kids can't differentiate btw the good n bad.

I would call this world 'A Dark World'. To make things happen, ppl do anything(Not every one though).

As long as no one looses anything and shine on this field it's healthy.

Way to go Pons! Keep Posting!!!

raja said...

I know many kids who balance both.I have my own friend(when he was kid)managed both academics and modeling.As you told its right that the environment in home and other places, also make the kids learn some unwanted stuff.These film and modeling can give exposure but ultimate effect is worse which can be paid more attention.

ps:the title is nice :)

The Devil said...

gud n a diff post...one more thought 4m my side...they r losing their interests in books n their imaginary world is shrinking because of these things...kids shud b left alone n everything should nt b thrust forcefully upon them...they shud enjoy what they da....finally congrats 4 crossing 50 :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Seths

//Days went on(just work kept me busy) and finally I'm looking at the # of comments for this post. It's crossed already 64!!!

Before the count reaches 100 let me make my entry for this post:-)//

Am very glad that you did comment! :) Thats enough the number doesnt really matter! Thanku for taking the effort to comment! :)

//My concern is when they are young adults, they are more vulnerable. As u said, exposure to right things at right time makes more sense. Ppl might take advantage of their innocence.//

Hm.. Yeah but hardly people understand this! :(

//Way to go Pons! Keep Posting!!!//

Thanku! I value your comments! :) and once again thanku for dropping by

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Raja

//I have my own friend(when he was kid)managed both academics and modeling//

Oh thats good! :) If thats the case with every1 then things would be fine! :)

//ps:the title is nice :)//

Hehehe.. Thanku! :)

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Devil

//gud n a diff post...//

Thanku! :)

//one more thought 4m my side...they r losing their interests in books n their imaginary world is shrinking because of these things...kids shud b left alone n everything should nt b thrust forcefully upon them//

Yeah thats very true! :)

//finally congrats 4 crossing 50 :)//

Hehehe..thanku! :)

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Jeevan said...

These days’ kids are over talkative and left what they really want to know and learn that was not unrelated to them. When the young kids have there way towards artist, there real aim turns off. The luxury and fashion living cut them from a normal children.

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Rahul

Thanku for ur visit! :) Did u get what u searched atlast in google???

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Jeevan

Welcome :)

//The luxury and fashion living cut them from a normal children.//

Very true :)

Vignesh said...

Enna solreenga? Pullangala veetukulaye pootiya vekanum?

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Vignesh
Not @ all. Let them explore but under supervision is what i meant!

Raghs said...

Hi Ponnarasi,

Congrats on the 51th Post! Bear with me for the delayed wishe s..

Good to hear that the 51st post of yours happened to be for kids!

Yes, the topics which take to blog seems to be a bit sensitive and quite reasonable. Yes i do agree that the amount of fame,money etc whatever they get at this age may definitely deviate the kids from their mandatory track of studies..

Here we can't be so relaxed saying that their parents will take care ! Its their parents who insist their kids to do so. I dont comment all parents but the people who fall in this category! They have to take a preventive measure!

Kudos!!

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Raghs

// Congrats on the 51th Post! Bear with me for the delayed wishe s..

Good to hear that the 51st post of yours happened to be for kids!//

Thanku! :)

// Here we can't be so relaxed saying that their parents will take care ! Its their parents who insist their kids to do so. I dont comment all parents but the people who fall in this category!//

Well said! :) Agreed!

Known Stranger said...

nanum oru kidu than the spoilt kid... aiiiii a post for me... i love it... psycho path kids i love them as i find familiarity with them. birds of same feather flock togehter

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

@ Known stranger,

Onnumey purila :O :O :O